I missed posting last week; I’ve just been working so much recently and honestly just didn’t know what to write about!
And this week, I found myself not knowing what to write about, so I’ve decided on something I’ve thought about for a while and is very important to me, but a little deep and I’m not sure how to go about it really…
Self love to me is so so so important and only something that I’ve thought about over the last year and a bit maybe. It has been all over in the media and a lot of the pages I follow on Instagram promote self love and just generally being kinder to yourself, I’m sure thats were the inspiration came from. It is something that I’ve explored and really want to continue doing so; liking myself and my body. Part of me also thinks “Well, why can’t I like my body? Why shouldn’t I like that part of myself…” I’m old enough now to know it.
I posted an image on insta the other day: ‘Admire someone else beauty without questioning your own.’ I believe this was my starting point in coming to terms with my body and myself and certain things I didn’t like. I realised that certain areas I didn’t like about my body, I would see the same on another person and think they looked fab! Which just doesn’t make sense when you think about it. And then I would be jealous that I didn’t have the confidence to wear the same things they would, or be proud of my body. My body that takes me where I need to go, is strong and the body I have for the rest of my life. It’s ridiculous now thinking that so many of us in society go around thinking this way and wishing to look different, when in reality we should just be proud of who we are, how we carry ourselves and how we treat other people. Those are the real things that matter.
I don’t know where this post is heading right now, I think I’m getting a bit carried away, but what I wanted to write were a few ways that I’ve managed to change my mind set slightly;
I stopped comparing myself so much to others and realised all bodies are made differently. I noticed me and my two sisters are all shaped so differently even though we have the same parents and grew up around the same things, so why would we think that most humans in the world would be shaped similarly?!!? Thats just madness!
I started building on the things in my body that I didn’t like, and on things that I do like. So, for example, I’ve always felt I had bigger legs for my body and felt self conscious about them, but by going to the gym and making them stronger I am now proud of what my legs can do. Don’t get me wrong, some days I still look at my legs and wish they looked different but Im still working on it.
I go to the gym! I’ve realised over the past few months that exercise genuinely makes me happier! I prefer to lift weights and try my hand at squats and run as far as I can sometimes, really try and push my body. I often leave the gym feeling so proud of myself and so happy with the things I can accomplish and how far I have come. I also work out for aesthetic reasons, I like a big bum so I try and build that, currently I’m trying to grow my shoulders and get a strong upper body! I think it just looks so nice and honestly would just really bloody love to be strong!
Treats. This is only something that I’ve realised I do recently; if I really want something be it new makeup, some chocolate, a top or whatever I’ll get it. Not all too often (still dreaming of that cash to splash lol) but I think its fine to let yourself have what you want, it doesn’t make you a bad person. Treat your self guys! Life’s too hard not to.
Anyway, I think I’ve rambled on a bit too long now… if anyones managed to get to the end, thank you and I hope this has been interesting. Please share anyways you go about caring for your self, I know I’ve still got ways to go and would love to take on any other methods; this is how I’ve started and want to continue!
Thanks for popping by, abitofpeace x